by Rynski on Nov.04, 2009, under date, first date, life
Overweight is in when it comes to dating, survey says
Thin is not in when it comes to dating, according to a poll taken by members of three online dating sites.
Dinner for two/Ryn Gargulinski
A hefty (excuse the pun) 85 percent of single guys said they simply adore heavier women.
Eighty percent of the men polled said the larger gals appreciate the attention more and are not as bitchy as their pin-thin counterparts; 69 percent of the guys said it’s what inside that matters; 54 percent said heavier women are better in bed; 13 percent said the rounder gals have more fun and 35 percent agreed with all of the above.
Nearly 80 percent of the guys said obese was OK, as long as he loved her.
On the flipside, 90 percent of women thought guys would find overweight women unattractive. Judging by the poll, they were way off the scale.
Go figure, pun definitely intended.
And the ladies, too, don’t mind if a guy has a few pounds to lose.
Nearly 88 percent of women polled said they feel protected by a bigger guy and “Yes, I love a teddy bear;” 74 percent said it would depend on how overweight he was but he better be healthy rather than a couch potato; and 30 percent of women wanted a guy who was fit and totally in shape.
We are not sure why the numbers don’t add up to 100 percent, unless folks were allowed to respond to more than one answer.
The sites that conducted the polls were Date.com, Matchmaker.com and Amor.com, and results were posted by parent company Avalanche, LLC.
What do you think?
Do prefer your date thin, muscular and fit or don’t you mind some extra pounds?
How many extra pounds are TOO many extra?
27 Comments for this entry
Leave a Reply
Looking for something?
Use the form below to search this blog:
Still not finding what you're looking for? Drop a comment on a post or contact us so we can take care of it!
Visit our friends!
A few highly recommended friends...
Archives
All entries, chronologically...
November 4th, 2009 on 12:15 pm
More bounce to the ounce? Hmmm, treacherous waters here.
I’d have to say that a bigger woman isn’t necessarily a bad thing, as long as she carries it well. I’ve known some very attractive chubby gals, and overall I would have to say they are more outgoing and fun. Perhaps an overcompensation for their self perceived shortcomings.
For boudoir shenanigans though, I’ll take a fit fox over a boisterous, buxom, bedbustin’ Betty every time.
November 4th, 2009 on 12:22 pm
Well I for one think that everybody needs love, so that’s great!
I went out with this guy a few times and he dumped me for being to thin, so the grass isn’t always greener…..
My motto:
Fat can come and go, but ugly is forever!!!!
November 4th, 2009 on 12:41 pm
hahah, love the motto, azmouse!
did the guy actually SAY – hey, you’re too skinny for me? how strange. i’ve never been dumped for being too skinny, but i think i may have deterred a few from being too weird (haha).
November 4th, 2009 on 12:54 pm
That is pretty much how it happened, and he was a thin guy too. In high school, I couldn’t gain a pound if my life depended on it and I hated it. My nicname that started in elementary school was ‘daddy long legs’. The first time I was pregnant, a lady at the grocery store told me I looked like a string, with a little dribble of spit on it! I’ve listened to ‘no-butt’ jokes all my life. (Hey, aren’t you forgetting something?? It’s your a$$!) All the women all the women in the family are tall and skinny with big boobs. I’ve actually gone shopping with guys, and I point out all the girls with big butts, wishing I had a butt too. Oh, the trials and tribulations of life. Yes, I know it could be worse.
I think bigger, curvey women are attractive. I envy them.
November 4th, 2009 on 1:00 pm
Let me understand this, az. You go to the store and look at women’s butts?
November 4th, 2009 on 1:27 pm
When they have a big butt, yes, I stare with envy. I admit it.
November 4th, 2009 on 1:07 pm
wow – the tall/skinny/big boobs seems like the magazine fashion model dream physique. i like the daddy long legs thing but the lady who said the dribble of spit comment was very uncouth. geesh. it is a trial and tribulation to be the butt of no-butt jokes, i’m sure.
November 4th, 2009 on 1:30 pm
Fashion models have small, perky breasts that still look swell at forty, not monster boobs that, once about forty hits, wanna hide under your armpits when you lay on your back. LOL!
November 4th, 2009 on 1:28 pm
A string, with a dribble of spit on it??!! How horrible, lol! I’d probably be mentally scarred if someone said something like that to me.
November 4th, 2009 on 12:28 pm
Rynski: I wonder if some of this isn’t just due to the fact that the younger generations are just fatter. They are more used to seeing each other carry extra weight (usually unhealthy) and they are used to eating what they want and whenever so …. thin seems to be the exception to the rule now when it used to be the other way around. Nicely written post GF.
November 4th, 2009 on 12:40 pm
hiya reneeschaferhorton,
i think you’re on to something here, you genius, you. if the trend continues as it has, thin may not only be the exception but may fall to extinction.
thanks for input!
p.s. i enjoyed your library post – wasn’t sure what to say, though, as i am used to studying on a subway train (and i also think they should allow ALL dogs in the library – haha).
November 4th, 2009 on 12:52 pm
My Ex was so big that I had to use a piece of chalk in our lovemaking. I would hug, then mark, hug some more and make another mark with the chalk until I rounded the corner and there was another guy with a piece of chalk in his hand.
Apologies are in order.
“the robust” is the Captcha
November 4th, 2009 on 12:58 pm
In the end, we look for qualities that we associate with fertility and fitness to rear offspring. We also have an understanding of our own reproductive fitness and what we have to offer, which is where “being out of your league” comes in. Symmetry of features, a healthy appearance, as well as the usual desired male/female traits: wide shoulders for men, wider hips for women, etc, etc; all come into the mix. This is all true whether we actually intend to reproduce or not.
There is also some recent research to suggest that we have some intuitive understanding of our own genetic shortcomings and look for a compatible mate that can compensate genetically for our shortcomings in the DNA department.
Being social animals, social considerations come into play also.
It’s a wonder we manage to find one another at all. But there is a lot at stake. Maybe we are just an elaborate construction, designed by our DNA as just a way to find other DNA and combine to insure the survival of DNA.
November 4th, 2009 on 1:33 pm
See, my hips are definitely smaller than my shoulders, which has probably been holding me back all these years. Who knew?!?
November 4th, 2009 on 1:38 pm
Geez Lefty, spoilsport!
November 4th, 2009 on 1:55 pm
Our leftfield is quite the romantic.
November 4th, 2009 on 1:56 pm
KIDDING leftfield!
November 4th, 2009 on 6:15 pm
Well, there’s a lot going on unconciously when we look at someone and say, “Wow” that science has taken a look at. Doesn’t mean you don’t still feel “Wow” when you see them and I’m sure not suggesting you tell your date that you think they have “good reproductive potential”.
It seems from several of the responses that preferring that a man be taller and larger than the woman to be most attractive to her. Women generally report feeling “safer” with a larger man. Women also have to be more selective in their choice of mates. They have only so many eggs and raising humans to independence is a very, very labor and time intensive investment.
November 4th, 2009 on 1:23 pm
Yaw, I don’t know about those dating websites…..they are all about drummin up members and money!!!!! Don’t forget that. I say this because I have “many” guy “friends” who have tried using these sites…they meet women using 20 year old pictures regarding both age and weight. According to my “unofficial poll” of guys they are not into the extra pounds but the size of our present society hasn’t left much else. Sorry if I offend anyone.
November 4th, 2009 on 1:26 pm
I’ve dated dudes on both ends of the weight spectrum, but I prefer the ones in between…not too skinny, not too fat. I like to feel protected when I’m out and about with my man. The lucky guy I’m with right now is an “in-betweener” lol. He has gained a few pounds since we’ve been together and so have I, (ugh!)…but they call that ‘happy fat’ don’t they?
I’ve always been told I have a nice bottom…to which I’d have to agree, not to sound conceited hahah
November 4th, 2009 on 1:38 pm
See how lucky you are to have some booty?
November 4th, 2009 on 2:06 pm
Hey…it’s the only thing I’ve got!
Well…besides my extra pounds around the midsection. It just never seems to go away…and you won’t catch me shakin’ that in front of a guy to try to lure him in! Lol
November 4th, 2009 on 1:46 pm
Weight is a non-issue for me. If a guy makes me laugh, I’m putty in his hands. LOL
Honestly, looking through the mental catalogue of men, most just happen to be tall and thin.
I did go out with one those really muscular guys once. That wasn’t my thing, but my Mom thought he was cool.
November 4th, 2009 on 2:07 pm
My favorite body type for a male is generally 20lbs over weight. I am 5′4 and 115 but have always desired the heavier set male. I say that but the current man is buff to beat the band…..I feel intimidated naked!!! But my nature is lazy so I am not muscular at all I just look fit…..it’s all pretend!
November 4th, 2009 on 6:30 pm
I was talking to a guy I met on PassionSearch.com about this..it’s hilarous!
November 18th, 2009 on 2:20 am
I had a great time reading around your post as I read it extensively. Excellent writing! Love online is in the air this days!
November 19th, 2009 on 5:11 pm
Im totally down with lefty and Renee. I mean, they are dating sites…and it’s a lotta human genetics. Im down with the thicker gents, but i like when they have some muscle to their beef =)