I was reminded recently about what can happen to a person’s support system when he/she  is dealing with a mental health crisis.  When a loved one ends up in the hospital due to a heart attack or stroke or some other sort of physical catastrophe, friends and family circle around the affected family offering to pray and often times bringing over food and groceries to help with the daily stresses caused by the trauma.  The patient is often showered with attention, cards and flowers.

But when a person suffers from a psychotic break in the earlier stages of serious mental illness and needs to be hospitalized or even when a person who has been living successfully in mental health recovery and experiences a set back, the support system vanishes and the person can be left to climb out of the hole on their own.  No cards and flowers are sent.  No help with day to day chores  is offered.  Rarely are there concerned phone calls asking how the family is holding up.

Why is that?  Is it because mental illness is so frightening to some people that they don’t want to discuss it?  Is it because they still think mental illness and/or a mental health crisis is not as devastating as a chronic physical illness or physical health crisis?

When my son was diagnosed with schizophrenia, many of my “friends” seem to disappear.  While my daughter and I were dealing with the most intense period of our lives, many seemed to look the other way.  As a parent I experienced unbearable grief and pain.  Gone was the brilliant young man who had plans of attending Harvard.  Left in his place was a person that had delusional thoughts that kept him incapable of caring for himself.  His first hospitalization was a rude awakening for all of us.  Psychiatric care at the hospital was not effective and when he was discharged after a few weeks the only advise I got was to “buy him some earphones so he could listen to music and drown out the voices.”  He was literally drooling from being over-medicated and started experiencing tremors that continually ebbed and flowed over the next years.

Fortunately, after several weeks a medication “cocktail” was created to give him some balance and give us some optimism that he would get better.

He did get better and although he never went to Harvard, he began a new life as a forever changed young man.  His old friends never came back around……perhaps they were too scared, and all of my support system was there again for me.  Unfortunately my son died by suicide five years later.  My friends and family were there for us then and continue to lovingly support us today.

The moral of this blog?  When someone with a psychiatric illness needs to be  hospitalized, they need your care and support the same as they would if they had pneumonia or were injured in an accident.  Trauma is trauma, whether it be mental or physical and loving care and support are essential in the healing process.

It’s a really complicated world……all of us want to decrease the federal debt, but how can we when so much is needed? Increased spending on the borders and illegal immigration control is at the top of the “Rights” list, while taking care of our poor and disabled stay at the top of the “lefts” list. In my world it’s a no-brainer. Supporting people that are some of societies most vulnerable is the right thing to do and I am glad HR 1586 was signed into law yesterday.

The law included a six month extension of higher Medicaid federal matching funds for states – a major contribution towards some of the drastic slashes in mental health coverage in Arizona.

Recent budget slashes (I prefer that term over cuts as I feel it’s much more descriptive) in the state’s healthcare system for the poor have forced many people to search for alternatives to afford their medications. Some are going to Canada, while some have been fortunate to be able to get discounts directly from the pharmaceutical companies. I applaud the efforts of some of the drug companies to help and I wish they would all step up.

While illegal immigration and calls to enforce the border by sending in troops occupies the headlines, our state’s most vulnerable citizens are doing the best they can just to survive.  In my world they take priority over someone who has illegally crossed our borders to look for a better way of life.  Helping disabled and seriously mentally ill people is not only money well spent, it’s the “right” thing to do!

How Did Your Member Vote?

View the House roll call vote on final passage of HR 1586

Both McCain and Kyle voted no when the bill went through the senate.

Read further details on the provisions in HR 1586 designed to support state Medicaid programs into 2011.

I consider myself a pretty positive person.  I’ve faced plenty of tragedy in my life and still feel optimistic about the future.  Some people would call it “faith.”  I’m not sure what it is as I’m not necessarily a religious person, but I definitely believe in the greater good.

But, this catastrophic Gulf oil spill has gotten me down.  I can’t imagine what it must be like for people who live in the area affected. And that area is growing day by day.  If you listen to some doomsday “sayers” this is just the beginning of a global crisis that could change the world as we know it. One can’t help but get nostalgic thinking about the days most of us have spent frolicking on white sand and splashing in the ocean. Some of my favorite childhood memories are from family vacations spent on the beach.  Many times it was on a Gulf of Mexico beach.  Same is true for my daughter, except that it was usually the Sea of Cortez.

What I can say for a fact is that the Gulf of Mexico is experiencing the biggest threat to it’s environment in history and it makes me want to cry.  When I first heard of the oil spill, I had this sinking feeling in my stomach.  Some how I knew intuitively this wasn’t just another oil spill. Now, almost two months later most of the world knows it’s the worst environmental disaster in history.  Scary part is, we still don’t know how to stop it.

A few facts we do know:

• 11 people lost their lives in the initial explosion
• Efforts to cap it or plug it have been unsuccessful
• Relief well may or may not work
• Dispersant’s being used are toxic
• Skimming works in a very small area
• Small portion of the oil is being recaptured
• Thousands of people’s livelihoods have been disrupted

No one really knows how this will end. President Obama said in his speech on Tuesday that we should all pray.  Some made fun of that suggestion.  It reminded me of the bumper stickers that say “Visualize Peace,”  or the adage “the power of positive thinking.”  So,  I think we should all visualize a clean Gulf – it can’t hurt! Thinking about a clean beach and aqua blue seas can definitely lighten my mood!!