No one but another spouse really understands. Friends and family quickly lose patience, both with the veteran, and with the spouse who struggles to hang onto the relationship.
To the women out there who need an understanding friend, who need to feel that they are not alone, I recommend visiting an online support group founded in 2001. Administrators at our local VA hospital and Vet Center refer women to this group. Just this morning, I heard of a woman who was given the web address by her doctor in Texas.
It’s a great site. You really are not alone.